When we first added a girl on WeChat, we chatted for a while, but we were too busy and didn’t chat for a long time. When we were done, we wanted to restart the chat, but we didn’t know what to say. The awkward relationship became increasingly tense.
1. Self-worth display, attraction is the main focus
Attraction is not too important in an intimate relationship. Let’s just say that when chatting with a girl, instead of thinking about how to talk to her, it’s better to show your value just right to attract her.
The best way to attract people is to send some interesting and high-level but not pretentious friends or group messages, or do some interesting things to induce your friends to take the initiative to reply or contact you.
If there is a girl among the people who reply, expand based on the other party’s reply.
We have said before that value does not mean that you have to have a house, a car, eight-pack abs, and an annual income of millions.
The value you want to demonstrate is "higher value than others", not "high value".
Let’s give a few examples!
No one has time to cook for themselves. If you have leisure time, you can make lunch for yourself;
Everyone is running for a living. You have no time to care about enjoying life, but you have always had a persistent interest and hobby;
Everyone usually only knows how to read jokes, but you are the joker in the circle of friends...
None of these things are valuable, but they are all real "higher value than others" - a person's value has nothing to do with the money he shows, and whether the status and value he shows are enough. Uniqueness matters.
Our personal value display has nothing to do with money or social status. I show my unique side. I have values ??that you never have. I let you see in me those things you have always wanted to do but Things that didn't get done.
Only by being less clichéd and more sincere can you attract someone who is in tune with you.
2. Observe each other’s circle of friends
If you are very busy at work, 996 a day, except for no nightlife, No sex either.
If there is really no Moments to post in, you can observe the other person’s Moments.
Try to like and comment on some interesting answers that are different from others. Wait for the other party to reply before interacting in the circle of friends. When the interaction effect is good, transfer to private chat.
For example, a girl posts a post in a circle of friends about eating in a certain restaurant or going somewhere to play.
Can you just comment below! Eh? Did you eat here just now?
If I reply to you, you can continue to say, I will go, I just came yesterday But, if I had known you would come today, I would have come today! Then you successfully opened up the topic!
One thing to note here is not to be too clear-cut and think about dating a girl without a few words of conversation. Going out to eat or drink will make her think you are weird.
3. Reopen the topic through previous chats
For example, the last time you chatted with a girl When you watch a suspense movie, just ask the girls directly, eh, have you seen the recently released "The Hidden Corner"?
The opening of the same hobby seems natural and appropriate, and there is no need for excessive greetings and awkward chats. , you can get to the point in just a few words.
Or maybe you two talked about it last time and both like to drink Heytea. It just so happens that Heytea has recently released a new product. If you feel it is very good, you can recommend it to her.
In short, just go through the chat history between the two of you and find a suitable topic to start with!
I have to emphasize one point here. In the previous few chats, it is best to control the frequency. Don't keep babbling and babbling. This makes you look greedy, and it's not good to reveal your neediness before you even start.
Some people may say, I didn’t give her any money, and I didn’t go shopping with her to buy bags. How did I reveal my sense of need? Time is actually a huge cost!
< p> In this era where everyone is running around and working hard to make money, there is someone who spends a lot of time with you, chatting with you about trivial topics, listening to you complain about your work, and even accompanying you to scold your colleagues and your boss. This is also a kind of sacrifice! It’s just that sometimes we don’t realize the cost of time! Just be like an ordinary friend. Slower and last longer!