Online dating is definitely in the direction of be present, but it is difficult for most online dating to reach the step of be present, and the main reason is because they don’t know how to chat, and it is not easy to get the other person’s favor, but However, it was impossible to further confirm the relationship through chatting and reach the stage of BenXian.
Next, the editor will teach you some online dating chat skills. If you want to make money through online dating, then try these skills.
1. Don’t try to please
Many boys have a please-pleaser personality, even when they first meet a girl. When you are in a relationship, you control yourself well and don't deliberately try to please the other person, but as the relationship develops further, your please-pleaser personality is unknowingly exposed, and you slowly lower your stance.
For example:
Female: "I heard that Wanda has opened a new Western restaurant"
Male: "Then I'll invite you to eat someday" ( Wrong answer)
Male: "Really? I also like to eat Western food. I just went to Wanda to eat with my friends last Sunday. I don't know if I'm talking about a restaurant." (Correct answer)
The first wrong way of answering exposed the sense of need, as if catering to please the girl. The second correct answer, on the one hand, combines the girl's preferences with the conversation to make the girl feel that you have the same hobbies; on the other hand, it shows your life taste to the girl, which increases your impression in the girl's mind.
2. Don’t care too much
Appropriate care is essential when chatting online, but If you care too much, you can easily make the other person feel stressed.
For example:
Girl: “I really want to eat spicy food today”
Boy: “You already have a cold and fever, why are you still thinking about eating spicy food? Well, you must not eat it” (wrong answer)
Boy: “I happen to want to eat it recently. Anyway, if you are not afraid of catching a cold, let’s go and make it together” (correct answer)
The first wrong answer is that you don't understand the girl's thoughts and show excessive concern for the girl. The second correct answer will make the girl feel that you understand her very well, and you will definitely have fun with her, and at the same time, you will achieve the purpose of inviting the girl on a date.
3. Create emotional resonance
The most important thing for online dating to succeed is Learn to have "emotional resonance" with girls when chatting.
Emotional resonance can be summed up as: shared experiences + shared feelings.
1. Shared experience
I want to establish a relationship with a girlThe easiest way to find common experiences is to find a girl’s hobbies and entertainment areas, such as finding her usual hobbies from her friend circle, and then explore the common experiences between you through chatting.
2. Express the same feelings
When expressing feelings, it is best not to talk to girls about very emotional topics, such as houses, cars, jobs, salaries, etc.; but if you and girls When girls talk about movies, celebrities, gossip, food, zodiac signs, etc., I believe they can have the same feelings as girls.
3. Express unique emotions
Women are the most emotional creatures in the world, chatting with girls Try to express your feelings as much as possible, that is, try not to make comments or opinions.
For example, if a girl is scolded by her boss at work, when she is complaining to you, do not talk to her about right and wrong or argue about right and wrong. A girl is already very sad when she is scolded by her boss. Now, Your blaming will only make her feel more unhappy with you; the correct approach is to stand from her perspective: "You have worked so hard, your boss is too inhumane," and stand in the same team with her to complain and feel sad together. .
4. Share childhood
Childhood is the most beautiful time for everyone. You can talk about childhood experiences with girls while seeking common ground while reserving differences, such as: "When I was a child, my life was so carefree and wonderful. When I grow up, But later I found that work and life were too complicated." This is a tried-and-tested trick for building resonance.
When you have established enough emotional resonance between you, the relationship has gone from pure online dating to the point where you can become a real person. At this time, don’t hesitate to express your inner thoughts.
