Ice-breaking is a sales technique, but in fact, you can also use this technique when chatting with people you just met. So how to break the ice when chatting with a girl you just met?
1. Close the distance
I believe that many boys like to show their positive side to others and show themselves to be upright, gentle, decent and generous. Strong learning ability, motivated, brave and considerate. It is true that these qualities need to be displayed, but you have to understand that they will only be used after a girl recognizes you. Let’s understand it through an example.
For example: The girl you like complains to you about something that makes her very annoying. So, you basically only have a few answers
Tell her that it’s nothing and it will be fine in a few days (comfort her)
Tell her that you can help her deal with it. This matter (I want to handle things for her to look taller)
I scold this matter that made her angry (I want to combine three views to arouse emotional resonance)
Another answer is , tell her that you have also experienced this thing and that you were very worried (then talk to her about the things that made you very worried).
From the above four answers, although the first three can make girls have a certain liking for you, you will find that the last one can make you chat with girls for a long time, because it involves two aspects of emotions. Resonance and revelation effects.
It is not difficult to find in life that people are more willing to be with similar or close people. For example, in various singing programs, they first describe how miserable they have been, and then open up their voices , you think he is simply brilliant. There is also the expression effect, just like people who are familiar with each other will take the initiative to talk to others and be the first to open up their hearts. Be sure to pay attention to the word "first".
So since you want to break the ice and pursue the other person, you need to take the initiative. Be the first to say your little negatives. This will also induce her to reveal her little secrets, and you will find that your relationship with the girl will get closer and closer.
2. Look for the bright spots in her body
Appropriate compliments can quickly bring someone closer. Emotion and distance, when you get closer to a girl, it sends a signal to the girl that you appreciate her and think she is very good. Girls need such signals, they want to get more recognition.
First of all, we need to find the highlights of her body (for example, her clothes are good-looking, her eyes are good-looking, her nose is tall, her hair is fine, etc.). When we see that her clothes are beautiful, we can praise her like this: Hello, little sister, your clothes are so beautiful. You look like a little fairy in this dress. What material are your clothes made of? ?
Another example: Your eyes are so beautiful, they look prettyPure, it feels like a piece of sky to me. What is it made of?
We can see two things about the other person from his five senses, and we can also look at our own five senses. Compliment the other person to bring them closer.
If you want to properly praise a girl for her benefits, you need to find the bright spots in her (such as her appearance, clothing, personality, hobbies, etc.). Of course, complimenting does not mean telling the girl you directly. So beautiful, but a compliment that pays attention to details, making the girl feel that you understand her.
For example:
Your clothes are very different today. It makes people feel like you are floating around in front of my eyes like a soft cloud, with spring rippling on your beautiful and elegant face. Such a beautiful smile makes people immersed in it.
You are a bit like the moon in the sky, and also like the twinkling stars. Unfortunately, I am not a poet. Otherwise, I would write ten thousand poems to describe your beauty.
3. Guide girls to invest
When a girl likes you, the relationship between you It's close enough, but if you want to successfully capture her heart, you need to guide the girl to invest in this relationship. Many brothers here will think that a girl is very involved if she is willing to chat with him. In fact, boys who have this idea, you are already with the girl. This exposes a sense of neediness, and your relationship may only go so far.
Only by guiding a girl into a flirting mood, guiding her to invest, and when she begins to reveal her needs, will it become easier to get closer later.
For example
During the chat, express to the girl that you don’t like everyone, and you will only choose to be together when it feels right. Convey to the girl that you like her but not necessarily her. No, give girls the feeling of being out of reach, and girls will take the initiative to approach you.
You must know that attraction is mutual. If you only invest unilaterally and the girl does not make any active contributions, then your relationship will not be able to break the ice and go further.
