There are often some gaps in a marriage after an infidelity. If you want to continue it, you will definitely face many tests. If you don’t have skills, conflicts will easily arise. So how can you continue a marriage after an infidelity?
1. Talk openly and honestly
Talking openly and honestly with the cheating party does not mean that you will not have it. Any principled tolerance and forgiveness for him, but you must explain your untouchable attitude and bottom line. Moreover, being blindly tolerant and considerate will not win back the other person's loyalty in the end. Instead, it may connive to the other person, causing him or her to betray and hurt you again and again. If both parties decide to continue to be together, then have a good talk, analyze the problems that arise between you, and solve them together to avoid cheating again.
2. Don’t be suspicious
There will be a situation in life: once you have a criminal record, people around you will automatically put on colored glasses to see you. When someone loses something, they will automatically associate the lost thing with you. The same goes for marriage. If he has an affair, you will automatically turn on the fully automatic detection mode in the future. If your partner doesn't show you his phone, you'll suspect that he's chatting with his cheating partner; if he's too kind to you, you'll think that he must have done something to make you feel sorry for you... Life like this will be too tiring.
In this regard, the editor just wants to say that since you plan to continue the affair marriage, you must give each other a chance to trust and let both parties try to see if they can continue. If you can, live well. If you can't live a normal life, it is better to separate.
3. Don’t make do with it
Many people’s marriages obviously cannot continue because of the other party’s cheating. But they often continue to carry out the marriage to the end under the slogan "for the sake of the children". This is torture for both parties and the child. You must know that life and marriage are your own. Only you can decide whether to stay in your marriage. Others cannot influence your choice. Moreover, the responsibility of maintaining a marriage is the stupidest kind of marriage. Only by not giving in can you start a better life as soon as possible.
4. Improve yourself
The cheating of the other party in a marriage can only mean that there are problems on both sides. Maybe you ignore him too much, maybe you don't respect him very much. Therefore, after the other person cheats, in addition to examining the other person's problems, you also have to look at whether you have any problems yourself. You need to look at yourself, improve yourself, and pay attention to your external image. Learn to care for yourself, improve your self-worth, bring your personal charm to a new level, let the other person feel your changes, and let the other person feel the warmth of the family. When he feels that you are comfortable with you, This is the best state to run a derailed marriage.
Everyone hopes that their marriage will go smoothly to the end, but the wish is beautiful, but the reality is cruel. Of course, when you discover that there is cheating in your marriage, if you can save it, then continue to manage the cheating marriage. If you really can’t continue, then just get together and part ways!
