Fighting is an inevitable problem that couples will encounter, but how to express one's true feelings during a quarrel is an art. Below I will share some tips on speaking your mind to your girlfriend, hoping to help you deal with quarrels better.
1. Calm down
When we are angry or frustrated, it is easy to say hurtful words to the other person. So before you argue with your girlfriend, calm down first. You can calm down temporarily by taking deep breaths, counting, or walking away from the scene. Doing so helps us think rationally and avoid verbal overreach.
2. Be honest with each other
In a quarrel, it is very important to be honest with each other. Don't hide your true feelings and don't hide your emotions. Tell your girlfriend your true thoughts and feelings and let her understand your position and point of view. At the same time, listen to her opinions and feelings and respect each other's perspectives.
3. Use the "I" tone
When expressing what is in your heart, using the "I" tone is more effective than using the "you" tone. For example, instead of saying, "You always do this," say, "I feel hurt." Doing this will avoid blaming the other person and make it easier for her to accept your point of view.
4. Express care and love
In quarrels, we often only focus on our own emotions and opinions, while ignoring the feelings of the other person. Therefore, when expressing your innermost feelings, don't forget to express your care and love for your girlfriend. Tell her that you care about her feelings and that you want to be able to work things out and grow together.
5. Find solutions
The quarrel is not about arguing who is right and who is wrong, but about solving the problem question. Therefore, when expressing your inner feelings, you should actively look for solutions. Discuss with your girlfriend how to improve the situation and how to avoid similar problems from happening again. Doing so builds trust and understanding between each other.
6. Avoid offensive words
In a quarrel, it is easy for us to say offensive words and hurt the other person's self-esteem. Therefore, avoid using offensive words when expressing your innermost feelings. Do not criticize, accuse or ridicule the other person, but communicate in a rational and peaceful manner.
7. Seek third-party help
If the quarrel cannot be effectively resolved, you can consider seeking third-party help. You can find a relative, friend or professional counselor to help both parties communicate and solve problems. The intervention of a third party can provide objective opinions and suggestions and help resolve conflicts.
Speaking your mind to your girlfriend during an argument requires skill and wisdom. By calming down, being honest, using an "I" tone, expressing care and love, finding solutions, avoidingBy avoiding offensive words and seeking help from a third party, we can better handle arguments and promote growth and development in each other.
