Love is never a matter of one person. If you want to have a long-term relationship, you can't just expect the other party to understand you unilaterally. If you want to be understood by the other party, you still need to learn to understand the other party. In love, the most important things that both parties need to understand are the following three things:
1. No. Being with you doesn’t mean you don’t love me
Many people will use whether the other person is willing to spend time with you as a criterion to judge whether the other person loves you. They feel that the other person ignores you and doesn’t take the initiative to find you, which means he or she doesn’t want you. I love you, and those who love you will take the initiative to find you and stick to you every day.
But in fact, it is very one-sided to use this to judge whether the other person loves you or not, because two people are not only maintained by "love", their living standards are still required. What you need to consider is that if he doesn't have time to accompany you, it's because he is working to earn dowry money.
That means it’s not that he doesn’t love you, but that he loves you so much that he puts all his energy into work. Of course, you can choose to let him spend more time with you, but you You must also be sensible and understand his tiredness and hard work. Then even if you don't take the initiative to find him, I will take the initiative to tell you everything and treat you as his support and spiritual sustenance.
But if he does nothing every day and ignores you, it means that his feelings for you have faded, so no matter you can choose to leave such a person and start a new life of your own, don’t Over-understanding will hurt yourself and keep you living in dire straits.
2. Having many friends of the opposite sex does not necessarily mean you are a scumbag
Now the criteria for judging whether a person is a scumbag or not , it just depends on how many friends of the opposite sex this person has, and whether he treats other members of the opposite sex the same way he treats you, but in fact this is a manifestation of selfishness.
Everyone has very close friends, or childhood sweethearts, or besties, but if you are always jealous of the other person’s friends and always force the other person to break off all relationships with all the friends of the opposite sex for you, Sometimes, you will find that he will lose control of his emotions because of your actions, but you have to know that this is not because she doesn't love you anymore, but because she feels that you don't trust her and that you are doubting her.
Therefore, when you use the number of friends of the opposite sex, or compare yourself with her friends of the opposite sex, you will be at a disadvantage, and the real criterion is if he has no differences with other members of the opposite sex. With a sense of boundaries, there will always be some ambiguous behaviors and ambiguous words. You can blame her, or you can choose to leave her.
Because this is to avoid being betrayed, but if she only gets along normally with friends of the opposite sex and introduces you to all his friends, it means that this is just part of her social interaction.This way, so if you choose to understand, it will make her spend less time with the opposite sex for you.
3. Blocking is just a sign of hope for compromise
When falling in love, many people If you quarrel, you will be blocked by the other party, but this does not mean that she does not love you anymore, nor is she playing with your feelings, she just wants to force you to compromise.
Because if she really doesn’t love you anymore, why doesn’t she break up with you? If she doesn’t completely leave you, she will only block you? But when you can’t understand her intentions, you will Attribute this behavior to the fact that she doesn't love you anymore, but you have to know that when you don't understand her intentions again and again, she will also get tired, because she will feel that she is a one-man show and you don't understand her at all. .
So don’t worry if you get blocked during the relationship, because she is giving you a chance. As long as you understand her intentions and correct your mistakes, she will naturally come back to you. around.
In fact, understanding each other is easier said than done, but if you want a happy relationship, you must do this, because love is not only love hidden in the heart, but also in behavior Mutual understanding and consideration.
