How do newlyweds deal with quarrels?
1. Stay calm
When arguing, both parties need to stay calm. Getting emotional only makes the problem more complicated and cannot be solved effectively. Therefore, when you find yourself getting angry or losing control of your emotions, you can choose to leave the scene temporarily and give yourself some time to calm down.
At the same time, in a calm state, you can better think about the nature of the problem and its solution. Rather than rushing to respond, listen to the other person first and understand their perspective and feelings. This can avoid attacking and hurting each other and create a positive atmosphere for problem solving.
2. Good at communication
Quarrels often stem from poor communication between the two parties. Therefore, newlyweds need to learn to communicate well. First of all, we must learn to listen to each other's opinions and ideas and respect each other's opinions. Don't interrupt the other person's speech, and don't criticize or accuse the other person.
Secondly, when expressing your opinions and feelings, use a gentle tone and wording. Avoid using offensive words and instead express your needs in terms of "I feel", "I hope", etc. This can reduce the defensive psychology of the other party and increase the effectiveness of communication.
In addition, you must learn to listen to the other person's feelings and give affirmation and understanding. Don't belittle or ignore the other person's emotions, but try to understand his/her feelings from the other person's perspective. This can enhance mutual trust and understanding and lay the foundation for problem solving.
3. Looking for common ground
During the quarrel, both parties often only see the differences and contradictions between each other, but ignore the common ground between them. Therefore, newlyweds need to learn to find common ground. You can start from your own and the other party's needs, interests, values, etc., and find a solution acceptable to both parties.
At the same time, you can also review the achievements and progress you and the other party have made in the past. This will allow both parties to view the problem more objectively and enhance mutual confidence and willingness to cooperate.
4. Seek third-party help
If both parties cannot solve the problem on their own, they may consider seeking third-party help. This third party can be a family member, a friend, or a professional marriage counselor. They can provide objective opinions and suggestions to help both parties better understand and solve problems.
When seeking third-party help, both parties need to maintain an open attitude and be willing to accept the other's opinions and suggestions. Instead of having an "I'm right and you're wrong" mentality, aim to solve the problem and work together to find the best solution.
5. Learn to apologize and forgive
After a quarrel, both parties need to learn to apologize and forgive. Apologizing does not mean admitting defeat or admitting a mistake, but it does mean that you are willing to take the initiative to maintain the relationship.Take action.
At the same time, we must also learn to forgive each other's mistakes. No one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. Learning to be tolerant and tolerant can make the relationship between husband and wife stronger and healthier.
When newlyweds deal with quarrels, they need to stay calm, be good at communication, find common ground, seek help from a third party, and learn to apologize and forgive. Only by joint efforts of both parties can a harmonious and stable marriage relationship be established.
