Recently, I had an interesting conversation with a friend about why some average-looking guys always manage to date beautiful girls, while some seemingly well-off guys remain single. This made me recall some stories from my circle and ponder what girls are really hinting at and how guys should respond to win their hearts.
First, I want to point out that when a girl says "someone is chasing me," there are many underlying messages. This statement could be testing your reaction or subtly indicating her interest in you. For instance, a friend of mine was once told by a girl, "There's a guy who's been chasing me lately, but I don't feel anything for him." My friend was initially confused about how to respond. Later, he realized that the girl was hinting, "I'm interested in you, so make your move!" Therefore, a high EQ response is crucial. You could casually say, "It seems you're quite charming, but I think you deserve better." This approach doesn't come off as too eager but still conveys your admiration for her.
Next, I'd like to share three particularly effective techniques for getting into a relationship, especially for guys who feel they are just average.
**First, attend more social gatherings to expand your social circle.** This is really important. A friend of mine was single for a long time until he started frequently attending various gatherings like weddings, company dinners, and even hobby group activities. Within half a year, he met his current girlfriend. He mentioned that many girls don"t develop feelings for you right away but gradually discover your qualities through repeated interactions. So, don't just stay at home; go out more, and you might find your match at one of these gatherings.
**Second, turn yourself into a potential catch.** When choosing a partner, girls often value a guy"s ambition and potential more than his current financial status. I know a guy who isn't particularly well-off but is very hardworking, constantly learning new skills, working out, reading, and improving himself. He eventually won over a very beautiful girlfriend who said, "I like him because he shows me hope for the future." So, instead of complaining about your shortcomings, invest time in bettering yourself. When you become more attractive, girls will naturally notice you.
**Third, be humorous and have a good personality.** A sense of humor is a huge plus. I have a colleague who isn't particularly handsome but is great at conversation and always makes girls laugh. He ended up dating a very beautiful girl who said, "Being with him makes every day enjoyable." So, if you don't think you're handsome, try to be more interesting. Girls prefer someone who can make them happy over someone who only knows how to say "drink more hot water."
Lastly, I want to say that getting into a relationship isn"t that hard; the key is to find the right approach. As netizen @Little Deer Not Lost said, "Girls are actually simple; as long as you are sincere, she will definitely feel it." So, don't always worry about whether you're good enough; what's important is whether you're sincerely investing in the relationship.
I hope these tips are helpful, and I wish everyone the best in finding their happiness soon!
