Recently, while chatting with my close friends about the topic of love, I suddenly realized that many women around me tend to fall into certain misconceptions in relationships. Some women completely lose themselves once they start dating, while others are too afraid of getting hurt to fully commit. As someone who has been through it, I want to share some of my insights, hoping to inspire those who are currently in a relationship or looking forward to one.
First and foremost, I believe the most important thing is to learn to love oneself. I have a friend who used to always prioritize her partner's needs, which ironically made her seem too dependent. Later, she started focusing on her own interests and hobbies, which actually made her relationship more stable. As the article says, "Love yourself first, and then you will have the capacity to love others." This is not just a cliché but a practical piece of advice.
Speaking of which, I recall a comment from a friend named "Clumsy Ox" who said, "That makes sense," and indeed it does. When you focus on improving yourself, you'll find that you become more attractive. Recently, I've been learning baking. Although it doesn't directly relate to dating, every time I successfully bake a cake, it gives me a great sense of accomplishment.
Secondly, I think maintaining an appropriate sense of distance in a relationship is also crucial. I remember a period when I would send dozens of messages to my boyfriend every day, and if he replied slowly, I would start overthinking. Later, I learned to keep myself busy, which actually made our relationship more relaxed. As the article mentions, it"s important to "know when to hold back and when to let go."
When it comes to communication, I think this is an issue many couples face. Sometimes, we assume that our partner should understand our thoughts, but in reality, men and women think quite differently. Instead of making them guess, it"s better to directly express your needs. A friend of mine resolved many misunderstandings with her boyfriend through honest communication.
Lastly, I want to say that no matter how sweet the relationship is, never forget to maintain your independence. I know a sister who became completely dependent on her husband after marriage, and when she faced a crisis, she was left very passive. This made me realize that even if you have someone to rely on, you should continue to improve yourself. As the article says, "Never stop taking steps to make yourself stronger."
Seeing many friends in the comments sharing this article, I think it"s truly worth it. Love is a subject that requires learning, and I hope every woman can find the best version of herself in love. Remember, you don't exist to please anyone; you deserve to be loved and to have happiness.
May we all grow in love and harvest happiness in our growth.
