There is a group of people who have a label that others don’t have - chat terminators! In my opinion, they don’t want this label if they can, but they don’t know how to change the status quo, so today I will Let’s teach you how to avoid chatting to death! Let’s take a look.
First of all, let’s recall, is this the same situation for you? I feel that the topic I chose is okay, and girls are willing to reply to you, but they always end up "chatting to death" after only a few words... Why?
Most of the time this happens because boys like to chat. "Logic", while girls like to talk about "emotion".
What is logic? It refers to summarizing the topic, making conclusions, or giving specific solutions to objections.
What is emotion? It refers to extending the topic or giving emotional resonance.
For example:
Female: "I went shopping in Xidan yesterday, and there was a super nice skirt, model XX."
Usually. , my best friend’s reaction: “Yes, I also think the xx style is very suitable for you, especially it matches your current hairstyle and is very elegant.”
Then you can continue the topic: "I also went shopping in Xidan last week and went to see xx movie with my friends. It was great. I recommend you to watch it."
However, if If a girl says the same thing to a boy, how will the boy reply?
Girl: "I went shopping in Xidan yesterday and saw a very nice skirt, model xx."
Male: How much does it cost? If you like it, buy it.
The topic is over.
So you understand, the chat between girls is an emotional chat, and you can find keywords in the chat sentences. extend.
Based on "the skirt looks good", "the style" and "shopping" are extended to movies.
If girls chat with boys, most boys will give the solution "buy, buy, buy"!
Another example:
Female: "Today I went to Beijing with my best friend.”
The way to chat emotionally is:
Keyword: “best friend”.
Male: "You have a really good relationship with your best friend. I often see you posting photos of you in Moments. That one must be your best friend."
Keyword "Beijing" .
Male: I heard that there are a lot of delicious food in Nanluoguxiang, the most famous one is Peking duck. By the way, where are you going to go?
And the way to end the conversation is Yes:
Male: "Have fun, and be safe."
Can you see the difference?Therefore, the words you usually use to feel good about yourself are actually ending the topic. For example, "drink more hot water", "good night and sweet dreams", "go home early" and "pay attention to rest".
Now that you know the problem, let’s start practicing now. I believe that only through repeated practice can you get rid of the label of chat terminator, so come on~!
