Recently, while chatting with a few friends, I noticed that everyone has quite a few confusions about dating. Women are always struggling with how to choose the right person, while men are troubled by how to pursue the girl they fancy. As someone who has been through it, I want to share some of my observations and insights today.
Let's start with the women. A close friend of mine recently encountered emotional distress; she is always attracted to a man's appearance, only to find out later that his character is questionable. This reminds me of a saying: "Looks are the door opener, but character is the anchor." Really, don't be fooled by appearances; a reliable partner is more important than anything.
Another point I find particularly important is not to love too fully. I"ve seen too many women who, once in a relationship, pour all their attention into their partner, only to end up getting hurt. As the netizen "Deer in Headlights" said: "Love is like flying a kite; pulling the string too tight can easily break it." A proper sense of distance can actually make the relationship last longer.
As for the men, what I really want to say is that pursuing a woman isn"t something you can succeed at with just sweet talk. A guy I know, in order to win over the girl he liked, insisted on bringing her breakfast every day for three whole months. Although the girl didn't agree at first, she was eventually moved by his sincerity. This reminds me of a comment by the netizen "Dream Chaser": "Sincerity is more important than tactics, and persistence is more powerful than sweet talk."
Actually, whether you"re a man or a woman, you need to learn to empathize in a relationship. As my boyfriend says, sometimes he acts childish because he can let his guard down around me. And I've gradually learned to understand his "little boy" side, which has actually brought us closer.
Finally, what I want to say is that the most important things in a relationship are sincerity and respect. Don"t lose yourself trying to please the other person, and don't be afraid to give because you're scared of getting hurt. As the netizen "Sunny Days" said: "Love is not a game, but a mutual growth for two people."
I hope these shares can give everyone some inspiration. Remember, a good relationship is about mutual achievement, not mutual depletion. Wishing everyone can find their own happiness!
