When you first add a girl, it is best to say hello in time, because if you wait for a long time, the girl may not remember who you are. But at this time, you and the girl are not familiar enough, and you don’t know how to start a chat. Let me share with you how to start a conversation with a girl you just added? It gives you a chance to keep chatting with girls.
1. The opening with resonance
Those who listen to it for the first time will definitely not know what resonance is. Let me give you an example:
In the stage when you first get to know a girl, you can taste and savor these conversations to make it easier for you to resonate. It's hard to get good results when you talk about work or hobbies, unless it's a complaint, for example, about your company's fishing methods or how to score three-pointers. The bad thing is that you don't know what type of girl she is. You like to fish, but she doesn't. You keep talking about fishing, so how can you pursue her?
I usually say this:
1. I think your model is pretty good, but I can’t buy it, it’s too difficult.
2. I see you have also been to xx Paradise. I have been there before, and the queues made me doubt my life. Were there many people when you went?
3. Wow, I finally met a friend who loves growing succulents. How long have you been playing?
Did you suddenly start a conversation with a girl?
2. Opening of content that girls are interested in
Our chatting is like fishing, with more hooks, naturally Easy to talk to. You can understand the hook as content that girls are interested in. Guys who use this trick must not think about self-pleasure and crazy sharing of content that they are good at. Understand. We should let girls share more. If the atmosphere starts to get worse, we need to open up some topics and adjust it.
How to find interesting content? Let me first post a photo to give you an example (girls will only comment on content that interests them).
1. Your headphones are very good-looking. My friend also bought them and found the sound quality to be good.
2. Your tattoo is very cool. I want to get one too. Does it hurt?
3. Your place is great. Can you tell me where it is? Thanks!
Did you suddenly realize that you can pay attention to details and share topics? You don’t know what girls like to talk about, why don’t you try to talk about what happens in each other’s lives? But in this process, don't say a lot of very professional content just to look cool. If she doesn't understand, do you want to explain? What should I do if I can’t explain it clearly?
3. Opening with evaluation
Everyone wants to be evaluated. Why do some people accept flattery and some hate flattery? How should we measure this? Because everyone can only accept constructive comments. This must be difficult to understand. Here is an example:
A girl who often posts flowers and scenery in her circle of friends. How to start and how to make in-depth contact? Definitely start with flowers, this is the common point, it is definitely stable.
But you don’t know whether she sends flowers because of work or because she really likes flowers. So your guide should be to praise her and then ask her about how to take care of flowers. She won't be disgusted and can show her own professional level. Isn't this very reliable? It's better than coming up here to brag.
But you have to be careful not to start with an evaluation when there are many people. Even if you do, you can only say good things. If you say this in public, it will only make others feel embarrassed. Your emotional intelligence is very low. When she thinks you are low, what else can you do to chase her?
As long as you understand the above three points, it is not difficult at all to start a chat with the girl you just added.
