Taking humor is the highest level of emotional intelligence for adults! Master these three skills and become an interesting person
Adult The most advanced emotional intelligence of a person turns out to be the ability to speak. Let’s see if you have mastered it. This ability to speak is humor. Speaking with humor is the most advanced emotional intelligence for adults! Here are three humorous speaking skills. Master these three skills and be an interesting person.
1. Well-intentioned humor can best reflect your high emotional intelligence
Once, former British Prime Minister Churchill went to inspect a certain army. At that time, there was light rain in the sky and the weather was gloomy. Churchill's speech to the soldiers was very dull. Therefore, after the speech, the soldiers had no reaction. After the speech, accompanied by his deputies, Churchill left the podium. However, the road was slippery because of the rain, and Churchill accidentally fell down. The soldiers on the scene couldn't help but snickered when they saw this scene. Churchill did not get angry because of this, but said humorously: "Ha, it seems that my speech is not as inspiring as this wrestling. If I had known this, I would just perform wrestling!"
As the head of a country, Churchill could be so generous, frank, and full of goodwill. His humor immediately moved the soldiers, and the fighting spirit and morale of the army were greatly encouraged.
So, the humor of adults with truly high emotional intelligence must be well-intentioned. Even if it is a joke, it is based on the premise of not hurting others. The starting point of humor must be to warm people's hearts, not to be harsh and sarcastic.
2. Refuse with humor and don’t hit the smiling person
A customer went to the bank to handle business. There were many people queuing up that day. He looked at his watch from time to time and seemed very anxious, so he Go to the front of the queue and say to the person who is doing business at the window: "Madam, can I come first? I have been in front of this window for more than thirty minutes. I am really in a hurry."
< p> Before the woman could speak, the service staff at the counter window took over the conversation. She smiled and said to the man who wanted to jump in line: "Actually, it doesn't matter if you wait a little longer. You have been here for more than thirty minutes. And I have been behind this window for more than 30 years." This sentence not only relieved the woman in question, but also relieved the customer's anxiety, and also pointed out tactfully that jumping in line is not good. Habit. She declined the man's request in a subtle way and saved the man's face when she refused.In life, as adults, when we encounter inappropriate requests from others and refuse them, we must have certain strategies. The tone of refusal cannot be too direct, because this can easily hurt each other. The harmony between them. People with high emotional intelligence usually work hard on the language of rejection, and they know how to use humor to express their meaning in a subtle and tortuous way, which not only saves face for the other party, but also leaves a way out for themselves.
3. Appropriate self-deprecation, use self-mockeryRelieve the embarrassment
In ancient times, there was a Master Shi. One day, he accompanied the emperor on a hunting trip, but his mount was suddenly frightened and threw him directly from the horse to the ground, which made him very embarrassed. For an ordinary person, encountering this situation would definitely be very embarrassing and humiliating. But this Master Shi didn't blush or his heart beat. He got up and joked: "Fortunately, I am 'Master Shi'. If I were 'Master Wa', wouldn't I have fallen to pieces now?" What he said His humor made his colleagues smile knowingly, and even the emperor was made to laugh by him.
In adult social interactions, it is inevitable to encounter embarrassment. If you cannot deal with it skillfully, your situation will become very embarrassing. At this time, clever self-deprecation is a humorous coping method with high emotional intelligence. It can not only comfort yourself and adjust your emotions, but also make people around you think highly of you.
