If you have any questions or doubts about the display of Moments, this article has the most detailed answer.
If you want to attract girls in the circle of friends, you must first know what it means to show your feelings in an interview. The most intuitive and effective way to make the other party become interested in you must be your own display.
To be a high-quality girl, you need to see not only your quality of life, but also whether you look normal - as a result, many people scrolled down their friend circles without revealing any trace of themselves. If you compare love to business, if the buyer wants to see the goods, but the seller is hiding, the buyer will definitely turn around and leave. Some people say: Women who value appearance so much must be superficial and will be put down if they go away - I'm sorry, but the higher the quality of the girl, the higher the requirements in all aspects.
If you have a high social status or a high income, then it’s okay to be ugly. If you have no ability, no money, no looks, and you don’t know how to show off, why should the other person be with you? Talking about the Moments display, please note: You don’t need to appear in every photo, but to reach a certain proportion. But (for example, in my case, three out of ten pictures appear, that is, 30%, and the proportion fluctuates depending on your eagerness to get out of the order). If you discuss a single display, you must appear in person.
Therefore, when a classmate asks me to help him look at the display, I always glance at the Moments and say "unqualified" because the photos are all about scenery, food, and life, and I don't even Not shown.
My circle of friends for 17 years, at that time I feel: I have my own articles, landscape photos, and my own jokes. I am so talented. Now I know that nothing matters. Another key: it must be of high quality. The quality mentioned here includes but is not limited to:
The beauty of the photo (such as composition, angle, color and other elements of the photo itself);
The person is handsome (including appearance, outfit, etc.) Styling, etc.);
Environmental grade (design level, color tone, beauty, cost, light, etc.),
Hard value reflection (wearing quality, prop grade, environmental grade, etc.), etc. wait.
For example, if you are wearing work clothes, drinking Mixed Ice City, and eating fried chicken at KFC, it is basically impossible to have a high-quality display - because the environment, hard value, and aesthetics in the photo are not quality. Meet the standards.
Unless you are as handsome as Takeshi Kaneshiro, no matter how beautiful you make your photos, your overall score will still fail.
Since the quality of the photos is important, the photos taken are all the "highlight moments" in life - dressing up handsomely, going to decent places, and acting elegantly. Note: The highlight moments mentioned here do not necessarily have to be wearing a famous brand, being picked up and dropped off by a luxury car, or eating in a restaurant that costs thousands per person, but the "highlights" that can be touched in your real life - therefore, some people always question the display as "fraudulent" , "pretend" and "break away from reality" are actually "highlight moments" that are divorced from reality.occasion. You know, those who drink Mixue Bingcheng will always drink Hey Tea several times a year; those who eat Shaxian snacks will always check in at Internet celebrity restaurants every month, and just take pictures of these on the display - not necessarily I have to drink a bottle of Lafite that costs thousands, and eat a Michelin that costs thousands.
Another perspective - do those girls you look up to really live a higher quality of life than you? No, it’s just that girls naturally love beauty and love to show off their beauty, so they “appear "It's just better than you." In short, regardless of the content of the photo or the post-retouching, the quality must be reflected. Summary: A qualified display must feature the person in the photo, and the photo must be of a certain quality. Both are indispensable.
Why do you want to take a display? One sentence Summary: This is the most efficient and effective way to attract the opposite sex in today's society. First of all, presentation is a way of showing yourself, just like the matchmaker introducing you to the woman verbally, or recording a video to introduce yourself, they are all ways of presentation. So, why do you have to use a display? Because it is too laborious to speak by mouth, and it may not be comprehensive, and a photo can easily reflect everything that should be expressed; and recording a video takes more time, not only the people who take it, but also the people who take it. It takes time for people to watch.
In comparison, the display surface is efficient and intuitive. Secondly, why do you need to show off to attract the opposite sex? This is determined by the external environment and personal demands. In today's external environment, on the one hand, everyone has less time and is not in a position to get to know someone slowly; on the other hand, we come into contact with hundreds of times more people than before. We need to use a more efficient way to locate what we like, and also let people know more about each other. Notice what you like about yourself.
As for personal demands, everyone wants to find a more suitable and better partner. But you are not a winner in life. God has not sent your ideal partner to you, so you have to work hard on your own. If you don't have high requirements for your partner, then there's no need to do a show - go to a matchmaking agency with a one-inch ID photo, and it's not difficult to find someone to live with.
But if you want to find a better one, the situation is different - you must not only make the other party interested in you, but also stand out from the competitors. So how do you do both at the same time? Regardless of any method, the first step is to show yourself, and to show your high-quality self (if you say you are not that high-quality, then don’t imagine getting a good one). So how do you show yourself?
Some people think that you should not just show your image, which is too superficial. You can show your hobbies, life, talents, etc. - but the hobbies that you are proud of, on the Internet, other There are people too. You cannot distinguish yourself. In turn, a person's image and temperament are a side reflection of all his character, experience, and outlook, not just the image itself.
2018.12 Taipei So, in order to get the emotions we want, we have to show ourselves. Combined with the above point - use a display surface to show yourself.
Some people may ask: "I am looking for a partner through a blind date. I have an introducer and meet directly. Do I not need to show face to face?"
Not exactly. Because whether it's an intermediary or a direct meeting, you still have to chat after you go back. At that time, the display in the circle of friends can still help the other party understand you more comprehensively, without the hard work of talking. Imagine if your circle of friends were all about work, forwarding articles, and cooking. Passive girls would be embarrassed to talk about these things. In addition, some people lamented that "the world is not as old as it is now" - people in the past were so kind, they fell in love with someone when they met them, and they were so pure and single-minded from falling in love to getting married. It's not like modern society, people are impetuous, fast food love is really shameful. I seriously objected to this.
First of all, as mentioned earlier, the current environment is completely different from the past. We cannot directly apply previous conclusions to the present.
In the past, relationships were simple because there were not many choices; in the past, people's relationships were single-minded because life was difficult, and being together was more about cooperative survival than the pursuit of spiritual meaning. But now, you have so many choices, and you want to realize your spiritual pursuits more. At this time, you still want all the benefits of the past. This kind of "want and want more" attitude is like nothing, I don't care. Said.
Even in the past, if you didn’t get married at an older age, or even went on a blind date with five people but were still not satisfied, people around you would immediately start to criticize you. How could it be your turn to hold high the banner of pure love and be noble single - this Can you bear the oppression of such a big environment?
From another perspective, let these people really use the previous methods to get married. Can they bear the cost? First of all, the number of opposite sexes you can choose has dropped sharply. I’ve looked at 7 of them and I’m not satisfied with them. Sorry, there’s no one else. You have to find one of them, otherwise your relatives and neighbors will start pointing fingers at you. Secondly, the time and energy costs of communication have increased significantly.
You need to meet a dozen or even dozens of times. Not only can you not touch each other, but once you find that it is not suitable, not to mention the money and energy, it may be over in a year or two - in the past, you had to meet three times. If you were married ten years ago, how many partners can you date like this? Thirdly, the whole process of dating requires you to take the initiative and try your best to please the other person - after all, girls are passive, and in the past, girls would only be more passive. Finally, mentality and emotions are affected byInfluence. Believe me, after experiencing the above situations several times, people with strong psychology will have fluctuations, let alone those who live in ideals. As a result, they will lament that "true love is hard to find", "fate plays tricks on people", and "the world is not worth it". From then on, they become devoid of desires, become Buddhist singles, and talk about relationships in a nonchalant manner - but they never think that it is their own understanding and methods. Something went wrong.
So, whenever someone says "In the past, cars and horses were slow, and there was only enough time to love one person in a lifetime." I would smile with pity and contempt. It’s too far to go around, so let’s come back and make a summary: Why do you need to do a display? You have to do it because of the general environment, and because of the happiness you want, so you have to do it.
Correction: It’s not County Magistrate Ma, it’s County Magistrate Zhang, Zhang Mazi, what will be the consequences if I don’t make a presentation? In fact, the previous question has already been answered. To sum it up in a more concise way: you will become the "eight" in the "eight or two law".
When 20% of boys make a good presentation, they will get the attention and attention of 80% of girls; while the remaining 80% of men need to fight for the remaining 20% ??of the opposite sex's opportunities to interact. Got a bloody mess. This is the 80/20 rule in love. We have already talked about many possible consequences of not giving a presentation, so I won’t repeat them. Just repeat a few key points:
First of all, the number of opposite sexes paying attention to you will drop sharply
Secondly, the cost of getting out of singles will increase significantly
Thirdly, chasing girls will become very difficult Hard work, tiring
In the end, my mentality and mood deteriorated, which eventually led to negativity and resistance to relationships.
Except for lying down completely and not participating in courtship activities, you cannot escape the 28-20 law - either become a two or become an eight. The fact is that simple and clear.
One more reminder: as more and more boys start to do presentations, this round of the 80/20 rule is about to expire.
After 2019.4 in Chengdu, the exhibition will be for men and women. If you don’t do the necessary elements of communication, you won’t even be qualified to participate in the interaction.
In the future, in addition to watching boys’ presentations, girls will also examine boys’ true value and conditions, and only date truly high-quality boys.
When the time comes, the new 80-20 rule will be formed, and you will have no chance of becoming "2". So, you decide what you are going to do.
What is a good display surface? From basic to advanced, a good display surface must meet the following standards: First, it must meet the "three elements of the display surface" mentioned earlier - characters, environment ,value. Each element contains different scoring items. I won’t expand it here, you can go to my display course to see it.
The screenshots of the courseware "How to Sublimate the Display Surface" are here There are two advanced requirements. First of all, a good presentation is an appropriate beautification of the personal true situation, rather than an excessive beautification. In the field of display surfaces, there is a term called "airplane cannon", which refers to the extremely high value of the content on the display surface, which is almost luxurious, thus packaging it with the feeling of a rich second generation and a playboy. But this is far from the true value of most boys, so it has been criticized. The aircraft and cannon display is overly beautified.
Proper beautification is to appropriately enhance the value and quality of boys based on the three elements. For example: those with a monthly salary of 3,000 to 4,000 yuan can also have a chance to drink coffee at Starbucks; those with a monthly salary of 7,000 to 8,000 yuan can also stay in a five-star hotel for 7,800 yuan a night; those with a monthly salary of 20,000 to 3,000 yuan can also go out on a yacht of 5,000 yuan to 6,000 yuan. Go to sea.
The above are examples of "appropriate beautification". One more thing: The so-called aircraft cannon also depends on the frequency - working class, if the aircraft cannon is fired occasionally (two or three times a year), it cannot be called false, but to experience a colorful life. But the circle of friends of the working class is full of airplanes and cannons, which is called falsehood. Therefore, in my opinion, the reasonable display distribution should be: 15% aircraft cannons + 60 appropriate beautification + 25 down-to-earth photos and other content (such as forwarding, plain text, etc.). The above is the definition of "appropriate beautification".
2019.7 Another standard for high-quality display surfaces in Chengdu is "comprehensive display" - through the display surface, you can show your personality, life, work, interests and hobbies and other aspects of your characteristics. Your calm and restrained personality, sunny and cheerful, bold and artistic temperament should be reflected in different presentations;
The status, content and presentation of your life and work should also be reflected in your presentation;< /p>
What hobbies, hobbies, spare time activities, special talents you have can also be reflected in the display.
The above is an explanation of comprehensive display, so as to avoid "assembly-line" works that only take pictures of handsome people, going to high-end occasions, and showing their hard value. Summary: A good display surface must meet the most basic requirements of the "three elements of display surface". On top of this, it must be appropriately beautified and fully displayed. If all the boys take pictures of the display, will they crash?
No, because that’s what girls do, and the scope of expression in the display is limited. When you go to a girls’ exhibition, you dress beautifully and go to beautiful places to take pictures. When weekends come, your circle of friends is also very similar. So it’s naturally okay for boys to do this.
In addition, the display surface can only show the aspects of basic necessities, food, housing and transportation, rather than an efficient way to display inner thoughts (except for artistic photos, but that is not a display surface), so you cannot take distinctive photos.It's your problem.
In addition, there is one more point to be mentioned - improving the display is the same as chatting: first reach a qualified level, and then talk about personality and uniqueness.
2019.11 Chengdu Danshuo Exhibition—— You first want to take photos that are acceptable, not "narcissistic photos of poor losers"; Then, improve the quality of the photos: better image, better environment, better photography skills;
Then, practice retouching to take the photo quality to a higher level. At this point, your display level has passed the test. Even if it is called a display surface, yours is high enough to stand out. At this level, if you still want to improve, you are qualified to discuss how to differentiate.
Unfortunately, less than 30% of boys have reached this level - those who are not qualified or have not even started, what they need to worry about is not crashing. In any process of improving capabilities, there will be bottlenecks and troubles, and the display surface is no exception. I'm too old/too frustrated/too poor/too remote, can I do a showcase?
First of all: No matter what the boy is, he wants more choices, wants to have more initiative in relationships, and wants to simplify things. No matter how difficult it is to get out of an order, it is worth showing off, no matter what the situation.
Secondly, the more defective the conditions, the better the effect of a high-quality display surface. In other words: Making a presentation is like starting a new life - the number of opposite sexes you can come into contact with is dozens or even hundreds of times more than in the past; girls are more enthusiastic and friendly towards you than ever before; girls who take the initiative to express their affection are also unprecedented Yes; the meeting that you could never ask for has become easy... Therefore, as long as you follow the standards of high-quality display surfaces mentioned above, no matter you are too old, frustrated, poor, fat, or biased, you can all benefit from display surfaces.
2020.2 In addition to Chengdu, boys You can also get additional benefits from the display -
Those who are too old, through taking the display, find that they are not just old and decadent, but can also appear mature and sophisticated;
Those who are too ugly, through taking pictures of the display, find out that they also have a unique temperament, which even handsome guys can’t have;
Those who are too poor, through taking pictures of the display, they find that they don’t have to have the confidence to do anything Clean, elegant, and masculine; if it is too biased, through taking pictures, I find that there is beauty in the environment I am in, including my own life... In short, through taking pictures, I discover new characteristics of myself and gain There are a lot of examples of self-confidence and improving your own aesthetics and vision.
Of course, taking a presentation does not mean that a frog will turn into a prince, but it is indeed a shortcut to quickly enter the promotion channel - compared with fitness, plastic surgery, making money, and career advancement, doing a presentation to be more tolerantEasy, faster and more positive feedback. Finally, don’t you think that the more people have shortcomings, the more they should actively show their positive side, so that they can change their lives?
I’m too lazy/too busy to make presentations. What should I do? This may be the only question that cannot be answered in this article, because - there is no faster way to help you get out of singles than to do a presentation. All relationship patterns can be roughly divided into the upper-headed type and the getting-together type. If you are too busy or too lazy, you will not be able to choose the latter type, leaving you with the only choice of hair shape. So how do you get a romantic relationship? The key is initial attraction.
What is the most effective initial attraction? As mentioned before: your appearance and temperament.
2020.6 At this time in Chengdu, some people will say: It is also possible that the other party will be attracted to my talent from the beginning - it is possible, but the base is extremely small, because most people who are interested in the inner are passive and slow to warm up. Since we want to increase the probability, we cannot Be the best in a small group. At this point, you can see that: for some people who are easy to be fooled, a good display is the most efficient way to impress people.
What? Do you want to get feelings quickly, but also hope that the other person is not a superficial type? Go to sleep, you will have everything in your dreams. Scientifically speaking, there is a basis for quickly gaining feelings through display. Girls have more emotional qualities, and they pay great attention to "feeling" in relationships.
And a good appearance and first impression are an important part of "feeling" - for some girls, it is even the whole thing. This is the mate selection mechanism engraved in women’s genes. If you want to violate it and go against the will of nature and create miracles, then I wish you good luck. To be honest, if you are busy, just spend money to get it done (there are so many travel photography agencies now).
And if you are lazy, or busy and have no money, then it would be unworthy of you to still want a relationship. Many of those things are inappropriate. In the previous few thousand words, I have said that presentation is very necessary and indispensable, as if it should be a vast knowledge.
But the actual situation is not like this: this rude industry cannot produce a quality presentation theory course-everywhere you look, they are all "How to shoot a blockbuster in one minute", "How to make a 30-year-old movie" Quick content such as “cultivate the style of a celebrity in seconds”. These contents can only give you an understanding of simple techniques, but they cannot comprehensively and systematically grasp the underlying knowledge of the display surface. Another part of the course is a bit misleading - professional photography courses.
As mentioned before: high-quality display surfaces are not the same thing as portraits taken in photo studios and photo studios. Naturally, the corresponding knowledge points and skills will not be the same, or even completely opposite.
For example: Professional photography has very high requirements for brightness and light. In all likelihood, additional lighting and reflective cloth will be required, but the display surface will deliberately avoid careful lighting and brightness, thus Reflecting a natural sense of reality. Another example: SpecializedProfessional photographers will ask the models to do a lot of "holding up" movements, which can be seen as "concave modeling" at first glance, while the display requires the subjects to behave naturally in daily life. There are many similar differences. In short, if you equate display with professional photography and learn a lot of professional photography knowledge, you will not be able to meet the standards of display and still have no effect.
The other person is attracted by your photography talent, but not by you as a person. Therefore, if you do not learn the right courses, you will naturally end up "studying sideways". Either you become a "little prince of beggars" who is cool in the diaosi environment, or you are the "old mage" in your circle of friends who is 50 or 60 years old and carries a SLR around to collect news, making everyone laugh.
Therefore, when choosing a display course, be sure to avoid "dressing courses" that only talk about skills, and also avoid "professional courses" that are purely professional photography. Teaching you how to take pictures of yourself handsomely and well is a reliable presentation course. The above are some of my suggestions for studying the display surface.
2023.2 Haikou If you finish reading this article, If you want to understand and take good photos of the display, you are welcome to chat with me via private message.
